Christmas Break 2010

Christmas break 2010 was just that. A BREAK. A time to slow down, rest, reflect, and hibernate as a family. We needed that. We needed quiet. We needed days with no agenda or chaos. We needed time to reconnect.

We had a very quiet Christmas. Micah and I set a modest budget for gifts for the kids, and stuck to it. Christmas was different this year for them. We talked to them a lot about how as a family we wo

uld not be celebrating Christmas with all

the materialism that it has involved in the past. We

talked to them a lot about Favor of God, and the orphans at the House of Hope, and tried our best to give them an understanding of how we needed to be fully accountable to God for all of financial blessings he has given to us.

We also had some days of fun and being silly. We went to Disneyland, to the snow, took part in being on a boat for the Huntington Beach parade, walked around the Mission Inn downtown to see the lights, and visited Grandpa Jim up in Ventura.

So as I said it was a time of quiet. A time of rest to prepare for the fieldwork that God was going to quickly call to action come January 1st!

2010 reflections in 79 words

a few words, emotions, & themes can sum up 2010 for me...

reckless faith, radical trust, giving out of abundance not out of leftovers, obedience till it hurt, isolation, worn knees from prayer, abandonment, the Holy Spirit's embrace, revelations, visions, dreams, prophetic words, depression, at war with the enemy, a dedicated husband, promises kept, blessings revealed, loss, hope, friends, prayer warriors, amazing kids, grief, perseverance, ...Uganda.

looking forward to 2011. the harvest is here and this worker is ready.

December 29

December 29 will never again be just another day.

It is the day that I woke up to the phone call of "Come to UCLA right away. The ICU doctors want to see you."

It is the day that I heard the words "there is nothing more we can do."

It is the day that I told my children that I was leaving to cheer their Papa onto heaven.

It is the day that my husband was put in the awkward position of deciding what time to remove my Dad from life support.

It is the day that I saw my dad's pulse increase each time I whispered in his ear that he was a great Papa & Dad, and felt the squeeze of his hand.

It is the day that my hope was extinguished of seeing my Dad live his life here on earth as a new Christian.

It is the day that I felt the Holy Spirit's, power, love and mercy, in a small cramped ICU room, hover over our family as my sisters and I read scripture out loud to him.

It is the day that I laid my head on my Dad's shoulder, and told him how awesome heaven was going to be.

It is the day that I asked my Dad to tell Jesus that I loved him and to give him a hug for me.

It is the day I felt so proud for how hard my Dad fought to stay alive.

It is the day I experienced the most conflicting feelings of joy for my Dad's salvation, and anger towards God for taking my my Dad from me.

It is the day that I started having severe pre-labor contractions in my 7 month of pregnancy.

It is the day that my Dad left this earth.

But not forever.

And for that hope, I praise God.

Going Crazy

I feel like my mind is at war with itself. I am completely entrenched in ministry work and it's consuming my mind. Mostly in ways that are resulting in great growth. Then in some ways that are causing great conflict in my soul.

Call it "reverse culture shock" (I don't even know if that's a real term). All I know is I am really starting to struggle with living my normal, everyday life here in the states, while I am being exposed to what's happening in the world through working for Favor.

Don't get me wrong. I am thankful for the blessings I have to be an American. To live here freely. To proclaim that I am a Christian and have access to a bible. To know that I won't be hunted down for being a Christian.

I am starting to see that the things I complain about, are really vain and self-centered. For instance, I constantly complain about my weight and physical appearance. I am never happy with how I look. But God has been showing me that instead of complaining about my weight, maybe I should be thankful for the abundance of food that I have. If I stopped and took the time to realize that when I complain about my weight, that another child will go to bed hungry in world, maybe I wouldn't have a weight problem.

I am also struggling in seeing the complacency in people around me. Seeing the materialism of this country swarm around me, while people become mindlessly consumed by it. To see people spend thousands of dollars on themselves, building their kingdoms, without giving to anything eternal. To see so many lost people mindlessly existing day-to-day, not knowing that there is a God who created and loves them...hurts my heart.

I feel overwhelmed...I don't know what to do.

Sounds extremely judgmental doesn't it? I know it is. I don't know what to do with it. It's there. It sits in my heart and stews. Maybe it's the enemy's way of distracting me from my focus? Maybe I need to pray that people's hearts will be changed.

Maybe I need to stop sounding so self-righteous.

Following God's Leading

I am starting to embrace what it means to be a daughter of the King.

He is moving and working through me in ways that can only be attributed to him.

He is challenging me, calling me out to really understand what "bearing his cross" truly means.

He has brought me to my knees and has been teaching me what it means to have reverence before him.

He is showing me that I cannot save anyone. Only he can truly change the hearts of his people.

He is revealing himself through the faithfulness of his people.

He has sent his son Jesus to battle the darkness that lurks around me, and has made a clear path for me to follow.

He whispers to me that it will be alright. He shouts at me when I start to fall in the trap of the enemy.

He is revealing to me his passion for this broken world, his longing to see his people reconciled to him, his hurting heart for his creation to come back to him.

He is revealing to me my purpose in that plan.

That frightens me. No. That terrifies me. But here I am Lord. Take all of me. I'm all yours.

No matter the cost

God's moving with or without you. You can either ignore him, stand by and watch, or let him bring you along with him.

I have chosen to move with him. I have chosen to believe in the purpose and plan that he has set me apart for. I have chosen that the spiritual warfare inflicted on me through Satan himself has been worth the fight, if that means bringing glory to God.

Today was enough evidence for me that the work God has called me to do is worth the fight. Today I had the honor of meeting Martin Onen, pastor and co-founder of Favor of God Ministries in Gulu, Uganda. Meeting him in person, hearing his heart, and having him visit with us, is a reminder straight from my Father of the purpose he has given for my life. He is my brother, and I will stand with him no matter the cost.

I am learning quickly that ministry work is not easy, attractive, or popular, and it has required me to live a level of faithfulness that is terrifying. But still I will press on, move forward in obedience, and trust that God will not forsake us.

6 months later

6 months later this post finds me in a new kind of normal. 6 months later, I still don't believe I am on the path that God has brought me on. 6 months later, I am still relying on my faith to pull me through it all. 6 months later, I am still fighting the enemy and his assaults against my soul.

I am now not only in the trenches of running my consulting firm, I am also now a VP of Development for an international Christian non-profit called Favor of God Ministries. What the heck? Why does God continue to call me into these roles that I am so unqualified to fill? I can't even figure out how to mother my children properly, or be a "good wife" so why does he keeping asking me to serve him this way?

A few months ago, I was sharing with my pastor about how I would rather run and hide than to deal with the attack of the enemy that comes with the work that God has clearly purposed me for. His simple response to me was "so what you're saying is you would rather be an ineffective woman of God." OUCH.

Of course I don't want to be an ineffective woman of God, but I also feel defeated very quickly. The defeat comes from verbal attacks by the enemy, that I of course listen too, internalize, and ultimately start doubting my ability to fulfill God's purpose for my life. In the same way that God pursues me, the enemy pursues me, and he is relentless. I am the only one that feels this way?

Now I have global challenges to face. I am working for a ministry whose staff in Gulu, Uganda are living out the life of a servant Christian, more than I have seen most American Christians do. Now I am trying to raise money for a ministry where lives are being saved physically and spiritually, so the attacks from the enemy have become all out assaults. I am fighting an enemy that has a stronghold in the U.S. in more ways than I had ever noticed before, particularly in the sin of loving money. In just a few short months, I have encountered examples of "Christians" who say they can't afford to support our Christian brothers and sisters overseas to spread the gospel message, but who can afford to budget and save for the next new iPhone, jeans, computer, the list is endless.

How do I not get discouraged by this? I have no idea. I just know that I have to press on and trust that God will touch the hearts of his people.

Happy Halloween!

Halloween in the Crossman house is such a fun time. While we don't simply celebrate it as "harvest time" as many of my Christian friends do, we do focus on the fun of dressing up and the playfulness that comes with Halloween.

This year, we went to the Trunk Or Treat at our church and Micah had a crazy idea for our car. He wanted to do a political theme and I think his idea turned out to be pretty good. We ended up being President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama! It was pretty funny and a lot of folks stopped to take their pictures with us.

We also did something we hadn't done in a long time. We took the kids to pumpkin patch where they were able to pick their own pumpkin right off the vine! It was a neat experience and as always they had a great time carving them with their daddy.

Driving Miss Nesha

Wow, what a ride it's been. In just one month, God has continued to bless me with opportunities to serve him. Why do I sound so amazed? Why do I put God in a box as if I am the one who determines how he will move in my life? But yet, I remain amazed. I remain completely dumbfounded that he chooses to work through me. Maybe it's because I still don't feel worthy to be used by him. Doesn't he know how screwed up I am? Doesn't he know that I have major issues I need to work through? Doesn't he know that I am not the smartest person in this field? Doesn't he know that I think I am not ready to do something so big? Doesn't he know that I would rather stay home and hide? Doesn't he know that I just want to be left alone?

Of course he knows all these things about me. He continues to draw me out, to call me out, and to challenge me that if I truly want to be his follower that I must TRUST him. It's one thing to say you trust God, it's a whole other thing to see that trust play out in real life. It hasn't been easy, but I am choosing to trust that his plans for my life are better than my own. I am learning 18 years later after becoming a Christian (can you tell how stubborn I am?), that there is no better life than a life purposed for HIM. There is no true happiness in a life apart from serving and walking with him.

I have decided that as long as I let him stay in the driver seat that I don't have to worry about crashing. Sooner or later, I will get it through my thick headed skull that as long as I am driving, I will wreck. While I am still learning what it means to be his follower, I'll call "shotgun" and let him drive and enjoy the ride. I will enjoy hearing the fatherly, sweet tone in his voice saying to me, "let me drive you Miss Nesha. Buckle up, it's going to be one heck of a ride."

There's more to life than laundry

If you were to ask me 6 months ago what I would be up to now, my answer would not have been "I am going to start a consulting business and be a CEO." In fact, if you were to have suggested that would have been in my near future, I would have laughed at you and responded "thats a dream for dreamers, I am a realist, now it's time to get back to the laundry."

However, 6 months ago, the discussion of considering pursuing what I viewed as "someone else's dream" began to evolve from the encouragement of several great friends and my pastor. Back in September, I was asked by my pastor if I was ready to "come out of retirement" and consider volunteering in a role to help my church raise a substanial amount of money for a new home. I didn't jump up gleefully and say yes right away. I knew the time involved in a commitment like that, so I forced myself to take the time to pray about my decision. Yes, I said I forced myself to pray about it. Can you see the beginning of a lesson God is about to teach me in control here?

I remember during that week of prayer that I told God that he was crazy. I complained about him calling me to do something that I wasn't equipped for. I demanded that he call me to do something that made sense. Something that I was certain I could accomplish and not fail at.

It was during that week of prayer and study that I literally stumbled upon 1 Chronicles. I STUMBLED...and God's word smacked me right upside the head with 1 Chronicles 28:20... “Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don’t be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you. He will see to it that all the work related to the Temple of the Lord is finished correctly."

I finally shut up. I decided that God must be right and even though I still might think he is crazy. For the first time in my life, I decided to stop complaining, serve HIM, and wait to see if I could trust him. I was not prepared for the beauty of his blessings.

I worked as hard as I possibly could with our church staff on fast tracking a capital campaign effort. In the secular world, that is just plain craziness. I would like to say that I 100% faithfully trusted God in this, but I didn't. I was expecting to feel defeated, but instead God worked on the hearts of his people through the teaching and leadership of Pastor Matt Brown, and on November 15 our church received $4 million in pledges and over $1 million in cash gifts.

God floored me. His mercy and blessings are abundant and around us everyday, but I am so blind to them. I am clouded by the ignorance of my perception of the one who created me. I tearfully asked God to forgive me for doubting his power. There is no other explanation for how we raised that money other than that it was God. I didn't raise that money. I was merely a tool God used to aid in the process, HE did it. I didn't see it coming, but God was using this blessing and experience in trusting HIM to lead me down yet another CRAZY path.

Very quickly, he would be teaching me that there was more to life than laundry.